Change Yourself. Change Your Relationship


Do you feel

frustrated in your relationship?

Angry that your partner never listens?

Lonely and looking for emotional connection?


Perhaps your relationships has lost it’s spark?

Perhaps YOU’VE lost your spark

Is this you sometimes (MANY TIMES?)

  • Feeling disrespected and unappreciated, and angry that you need to ask for love
  • Tired of the vicious cycle of blame and criticism, and the negativity that follows
  • Victim to the need for approval and fearful of expressing your needs
  • Imprisoned by the demands of your partner and constricted by the relationship
  • Ruminating about petty fights and unable to focus on more meaningful things
  • Consumed by feelings of shame and self-loathing and afraid to open up
  • Struggling from one failed relationship to another and searching for “Mr. Right”

And the worst part is your relationship is bringing out the WORST in you,

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In this 5-week course, you’ll learn to:

  • Understand the connection between your inner and interpersonal world
  • Identify, challenge or let go of subconscious fears that drive your reactions
  • Feel, monitor and modify your emotional arousal, anger or bitterness
  • Process conflict and past disagreements so you grow closer through them
  • Move past gridlock and anger towards win-win communication
  • Connect the dots between your early experiences and your relationship
  • Build the framework of desire, trust and commitment

You’ll learn to identify your true needs and convey them in a way that your partner actually listens.

Of course it takes two of you for the relationship to work. But it often takes only one of you to change your pattern of behavior and thus create the space for transformation to begin.

And I’ll show you how!

Why I Created This Course

For years, I’ve counseled and coached women in multiple aspects of their lives. And I’ve found that more than anything, what consumes us, drains us, and makes us doubt our own selves is negative romantic relationships.

This is because romantic relationships touch something much deeper within us. They’re founded on the same attachment systems of our early years – and hold the power to bring joy and meaning to our lives, and help us rise to our fullest potential. But similar to our primary relationships, they can also bring us down, detract us from our purpose, and prevent us from showing up as the bright and brilliant women we are.

And sometimes, it doesn’t take much to do so.

I’m passionate about changing this. I’m passionate about empowering women with their inner strength and wisdom, so they can open up with vulnerability and playfulness, and find the loving and lasting connection they truly want.

My work is known both for its research base and scientific backing, and for the way its able to touch your heart and soul. I’ve had a rigorous academic education in a Masters in both Positive Psychology and Coaching Psychology. And I follow a holistic approach, where I align your different human dimensions and take your whole self in the journey towards the women you’re born to become.
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The best part of the course was that it helped me make sense of my life. I understood why I behaved the way I did, and let go of the shame that I was carrying forward in all my romantic relationships. Plus Homaira supported me all the way. I couldn’t thank her enough!
-Michelle M.
Doing this course helped me take responsibility for my role in my marital relationship. When I could connect inside of myself, I found it so much easier to connect with my husband. I always thought he didn’t care – but he’s a changed man now.
-Lara

 

How This Course Is Different

Most relationships courses work on communication skills to build emotional connection with our partners.

But here’s the problem…

Unattended feelings of self-doubt and self-criticism limit our ability to communicate.

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Without internal emotional connection, we cannot

 enter our relationship from a place of inner strength
open up with vulnerability and playfulness
find the loving and lasting connection we truly want.

Instead, we resort to endless cycles of blame and criticism in order to escape unhealed parts of ourselves. Or desperately try and change our partners in order to feel whole again.

If we succeed, we maintain a fragile sense of self-worth. And if we don’t, we struggle from one failed relationship to another, feeding a downward spiral of decreasing self-worth in the process.

This course can help you change that!

It addresses any feelings of fear or inadequacies that may be stopping you from opening up and expressing your true needs. And from this place of internal connection, it empowers you to take charge and lead in your relationship by letting go of what doesn’t matter, and speaking up for what does.

In just 5 weeks, you’ll move past the pain of accepting the status quo, the sheer frustration of waiting for your partner to change, and the hopelessness and anger that grows from emotional dependence or disconnect.

I’m Ready for a Fulfilling Relationship!

Here’s how it works

Weekly AudiosReflective worksheetsAt Your Own PaceScientifically GroundedOptional Support

Each week you’ll receive 3 or 4 short audios (2-5 minutes each) that you can fit into any part of your day. They’re purposefully broken up into bite-sized pieces, so that larger issues are addressed in a way that you’re able to reflect on your learning and put it into practice.

In each lesson you’ll find exercises that’ll help you on multiple levels. There are experiential activities, mindfulness practices, and reflective exercises that you can complete online without the hassle of downloading. Its all been made interactive so you reach the finish line!

You’ll have access to the course for 6 months after you sign up, which means that you can visit and revisit it at your own pace and according to your own needs and circumstances. It often takes more than one brush with new knowledge to have a lasting impact on our behaviors. 

The course is based on the attachment theory and on multiple modalities of psychology and neuroscience. It’s centered around Cognitive Behavioral techniques and grounded in the science of Positive Psychology that’s all about rising to your highest potential.

You can sign up for optional 1:1 email support throughout the 5 weeks of the course. This option is ideal for you if you need guided support to help change long held beliefs, or struggle with adapting to the circumstances without initiating the cycle of self-doubt and self-criticism.
I wish all of us understood ourselves the way this course helped me understand myself. I could then re-enter my
relationship from a place of strength rather than the blame and game relationship I’d struggled with for years.
-S.H
In this course, I learnt the tools that worked wonders for my marriage. I was frustrated and angry, and caught in a blame game that was draining me. I couldn’t focus on a thing. But things changed rapidly once I made sense of my reactions and our relationship is so much better now!
-S.W

Here’s What We’ll Cover

Week 1

Old Baggage

In the first week, you’ll be taking a journey down memory lane and understanding how your early experiences may have primed you for a certain attachment style, and how this attachment style may be playing out all over again in your romantic relationship.

Week 2

My Emotional World

The second week will be about reflecting on your needs and triggers, connecting to the feelings in your body and listening to the thoughts in your mind, so you learn to disconnect from old fears that are no longer valid, and let go of outdated beliefs that are holding you back.

Week 3

Conscious and Subconscious Behaviors

In the third week, you’ll see how subconscious behaviors such as emotional numbness, avoidance, approval or aggression may have evolved, recognize their effect on your relationship, and replace them with more empowering behaviors based on your deepest held values and dreams.

Week 4

Connecting Through Conflict

This week will be all about harnessing the power of conflict to build trust, strengthen the relationship, and honor each other’s needs and desires. You’ll learn how to uphold both your values and point of view while respecting those of your partner so that communication leads to win-win outcomes.

Week 5

The Garden of Love

The final week of the course will teach you the skills and strategies to nurture the ‘garden of love’. You’ll learn to weed out behaviors that lead to negativity, cultivate the habits and rituals that build intimacy and enter each other’s worlds towards a shared meaning in life.


If you’re tired of…
  • wanting to be heard and respected
  • waiting for your partner to change
  • struggling with your anger and bitterness
  • riding the emotional highs and lows of their moods and behaviors
  • the constant and repetitive thoughts of self-doubt and blame
  • the lack of mental focus
  • the constant worry of the effects on you and your children…

Then its time to take charge!

 

Which Option Should I Choose

It depends on how you work best!

Some of us are good at taking information and applying it to our lives.
But some of us struggle when we don’t find support – and fall back exactly where we began…

Because knowing without doing changes nothing

And doing takes courage, motivation and support, which can often be missing in a draining relationship of conflict or emotional disconnect.

Which is why I offer you the option to seek my guidance and support with putting your learning into practice.

I want this course to open you to a loving relationship of excitement and connection, and I’m committed to supporting you the best way I can.

Perhaps
  • You need motivation to push through the negativity
  • You find it difficult to remember how to act in the heat of the moment
  • You get thrown off every time your partner challenges you
  • You need to refine the strategies to your unique situation
  • You find it difficult to challenge long held beliefs that imprison you
  • You need challenging encouragement to overcome your fears and take the courageous steps forward
  • You may simply want the active support of someone who cheers you on and celebrates your successes with you

Whatever your struggles, worries or wins, 1:1 email coaching may just be what you need to cross the Rubicon and transform your relationship.And it costs less than the price of a single coaching session!

Frequently Asked Questions

Do you offer a money back guarantee?

For sure! If you’re unhappy with the course for any reason, you can totally request a 100%, no questions asked refund within the first couple of weeks. Not that it’s ever happened!

What if I have technical trouble signing up or accessing the materials?

No worries at all! Just email me at hello@homairakabir.com and my technical team will sort it all out asap!

I’m not sure whether online learning is for me

I want to assure you that the technical aspect of this course is very intuitive! Me and my technical team have worked together to create an experience that is easy and engaging. You log in, listen to short audios and engage in reflective worksheets that you submit with the click of a button (so you keep a record and track your progress). You can also post comments, share struggles and provide support to other participants in the comments section at the end of each lesson. If you can use email, you can do this course!

I want to take the course, but I’m just too busy right now

You can do the worksheets and listen to the audios at your own pace for upto 6 months after sign up. And if there’s a reason why you’d like to extend access for a few more weeks, just email me at hello@homairakabir.com

What if I need help implementing the learning into my life?

Then the option with email support is for you! You’ll be able to email me as many times as you need for 1:1 guidance in implementing your learning into your life. I know that it’s this support that’s often the game-changer

How does email coaching work?

Email coaching is proving to be one of the most successful ways of making progress towards goals. You’ll be able to email me with specific challenges that you’re facing implementing the learning into your life, and I’ll guide you towards ways of overcoming internal or external obstacles in your way.

How is this course different?

This course is unique in that it brings about your transformation through a structured and scientifically backed program that addresses the constructs of self-worth. The insights you gain into your own inner world become the building blocks to showing up fully in all other areas of your life.

How much time should I expect to spend on the course each week?

The lessons contain audios, videos, and some reading. Together they add up to less than an hour a week. But the strength of the course lies in the reflective and experiential worksheets that are part of the 3 modules each week. It’s entirely up to you how long you want to spend on them. But I would urge you to give them thought and apply them to your life, so you experience the transformation you so want.

I’m not sure…

That’s normal too! Whenever we’re about to embark on something big, fear and doubt are necessary companions. It may help you to reflect on the following:
• What are you unsure about? (Do you think it’s too late to change, that it’s going to be too difficult, or perhaps that there’s nothing terribly wrong…)
• What part of you is hesitant? (Is it the voice of fear, of anger, of denial…)
• What if you listened to it?
• What part of you wants to life life fully? (Is it your voice of wisdom, of courage, of consciousness…)
• And what if you listened to it instead?

 

 

Have more questions? Please ask! Contact me…


Are you ready 

to enter your relationship from a place of inner strength and connection?

to let go of the cycle in which one of you pushes and the other continues to pull away?

to move past the negativity and cycle of blame and onto a relationship of vulnerability, appreciation and common purpose?

If you are, then I urge you to sign up!

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