If you want to understand who I am, and why I do what I do, I’ve written the real journey of how I got here. Because I think that ultimately our journeys are all the same. That we each struggle with our own fears and self-doubt. That we each are immersed deep in mental stories that don’t always serve us well. And that regardless of where we are or what we’ve been through, we each have amazing strengths that can help us rewrite the story of our lives.
I was young when Edna (the name I gave my eating disorder) entered my life. It didn’t stay for too long, but the self-defeating mental stories that welcomed it in, did. They forced me to hate my body, reminded me that I wasn’t “enough”, and compelled me to prove my worth for many more years to come.
As I worked my way through them, I learnt that challenges, painful as they may be, open us up to a greater sense of personal strength, a renewed appreciation of life and a changed set of priorities and purpose. I became painfully aware of the psychological fears and assumed truths of past stories that imprison so many of us, and became passionate about changing this.
And so I pursued a Master’s in Positive Psychology and Coaching Psychology (MAPPCP) so I understand what it takes to live a meaningful life and flourish both in good times and in bad. And I undertook extensive research on women’s self-esteem, so I can help women tap into their brilliance, harness the strength of their minds, and make their mark in this short and magical experience of life.
I didn’t know this getting into the degree, but the journey changed me as a person, and continues to do so. Every day, I’m called to do the courageous work of putting the theory and research into my life. Because unless I do this experiential work, I cannot bring the best of myself to others, nor understand the challenges that come up for them.
Today, I bring my personal journey, my academic background and many years of coaching practice to women around the world. I help them remove the masks that are underpinned by feelings of shame, deficiency and perpetual self-doubt. And to connect to the human need to find a meaningful purpose, to lead with authenticity, and to realize their full potential.
Homaira Kabir is a positive psychology coach, a cognitive behavioral therapist, a researcher on women’s self-worth and a widely published writer. She had over 10 years of experience working with women in diverse roles and from around the world, helping them step into their power and create lasting change in their lives.
Her work lies at the crossroads of cutting edge research from positive psychology and neuroscience, and of contemplative practices that help connect inwards. Her unique approach blends the forward momentum of practical strategies with the inner work that’s essential for moving past self-debilitating subconscious beliefs and create inner transformation.
She’s passionate about helping women own their feminine power, and envisions a world where women move beyond their fears and self-doubt, embrace their true worth, and rise to their role in bringing about much needed change in the world.
She holds a Master’s degree in Applied Positive Psychology (the science of a meaningful life) and Coaching Psychology from the University of East London, where her research has been on helping women build authentic self-esteem in the workplace. She blogs regularly for Happify, Forbes, the Huffington Post, Positive Psychology News Daily and her articles have been featured multiple times in the Daily Good, Positivity Daily, Live Happy and more.
You can read more on her dissertation on helping women build lasting confidence in the workplace.
What About You?
Are you struggling to accept yourself and unable to appreciate what makes you unique?
Do you doubt yourself constantly, and sabotage your success despite knowing you’re capable?
Are you jumping from one creative idea to the next, and unable to identify or persist with a long-term vision?
Or are you searching for more flow, grace and meaning to make sense of the experiences in your life?
Wherever you are, I want you to take a deep breath and know that you’re right where you’re meant to be. Everything in your life has been preparing you for this moment. The unease you feel is the search for meaning – perhaps the most fundamental search on the path to discovering who you really are. Some of us hear it’s call early on. Some of us hear it after major adverse events. But most of us hear it in midlife when there’s a drive to live the unlived parts of our life.
I want us all to be able to answer its call. Because when we do, we’re able to move beyond ourselves to bring about change where needed, and in the process inspire and influence others to do the same. And when we don’t, we live lives of regret, powerlessness and inner emptiness, especially once our children leave home and we succumb to the illnesses of a loss of purpose.
Everything on my website is about helping you on the road to self-discovery and to realizing your full potential. Please make use of the articles, journal entries, free resources and affordable paid programs that can help you manage the internal and external challenges you face, so you get to know who you really are and show up as the kind, compassionate and gutsy woman you are capable of being.
I’m so glad you’re here!