If you’re like most women I know, it’s not often that you remind yourself that you’re enough. In fact, like them, you may be spending the majority of your time focusing on all the ways you’re not competent enough, confident enough, beautiful enough, or just not enough of something that you need to fill your inner hole.
There are many reasons for this inner hole, from our biology to our early attachments to societal expectations from the time we develop a way of making sense of the world around us. And often it’s a lethal mix of all of the above – one that has us walking through life from a place of deficiency. Like an apology. Like we have to prove or worth at every turn.
If that’s you, I want you, this Women’s Day, to harness the power of our collective and decide to change this forever. I want you to remind yourself today and every day of the brilliance tahts inherent in you. Because you are brilliant, whether you see it or not. You are brilliant whether you believe it or not. And there’s no one in the world who can help you believe it but you.
So here’s what you need to do:
Every evening, spend at least 5 minutes savoring the moments that made you proud. The little and the big ones. The one that you brushed aside and the ones that you hung onto. Let them warm your heart and go down into your long-term memory. Because its there that you craft the story of your life.
If that feels like too much to do, remember that you already have a story of yourself based on an entire mental library of your shortcomings. Of your weaknesses, failures, inadequacies. And this story is silently determining how you show up in the world.
This Women’s Day, begin building a new story of your brilliance. Of your strengths, your kindness, your intelligence, your inherent goodness. And if that voice in your head mocks you for being too big-headed, remind it gently that you’ve spent a lifetime focusing on your deficiencies. It’ll be years, decades even, before you get ahead of yourself…
Remind it that you’re merely leveling the playing field. Because once you can acknowledge both your weaknesses AND your strengths, you begin to live life from a place of enoughness. You find the strength to say: I may not be the best at —, or have the greatest —, and that’s okay! You pursue passions that once brought you alive instead of running after someone else’s dreams. You start believing that your worth doesn’t come from approval or performance. And you know in your bones that your worth is your birthright.
And when you level the playing field in your head, you stand a far greater chance of leveling it in your family, in your workplace, and on the world stage.
Please share this with all the brilliant women you know – because we don’t hear it often enough!
Happy International Women’s Day!