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A soft place to call home

Experiences can be painful. Such is life. When we were little, we ran to mommy and her kiss and cuddle fixed everything. Lying in her arms, there seemed not a worry in the world and the incident that had brought us running and howling was very soon a lonely cloud drifting in the far distance. Now t...

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The Week That Was…

This article first appeared on SelfGrowth.com Last week was amazing. I spent 4 mesmerizing days in Amsterdam. Yes, I am talking about the beauty of the city with its history and architecture, with timeless canals and cobbled ‘straats’, with wild trams that stop for no one and even wilder bikers...

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Gratitude is More Than Simply Saying Thank You

This article first appeared on SelfGrowth.com There is a general sense that children today are unhappier and more ungrateful than a generation ago. On the face of it, it seems strange. Our children have more than we could have ever imagined possessing – more gadgets, more clothes, more experience...

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Does Visualizing Your Success Actually Get You There

A while back, I picked up a couple of self-improvement books to help me in the change I wanted in certain areas of my life. Interestingly, they had one key message. Visualise your success. Visualization, the theory went, not only opened up your sub-conscious mind to the opportunities out there, it a...

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The Power and Peril of Stories

Fictive language is nothing new to us. Humans have been telling stories ever since we developed a voice box. In fact, the voice box may have developed partly because of the urge to express this unique ability of the human brain – that of symbolic thought. At the heart of a good story lies the emo...

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The One Thing To Remember When Setting Goals

Setting goals is part of our DNA as human beings. Goals move us in directions that are important to us. They make us grow. And they make us happy when we accomplish them. When we do not, goals have a wonderful way of making us feel useless and very unhappy indeed. The issue is often not the goal, a...

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Are You Aware Of Your Direction In Life?

I was at the airport a couple of days back, waiting in the bus that was to transport us from the terminal to the plane. As the passengers climbed in with their luggage, a lady barged in craning her head in search of an empty seat and on seeing one next to me, darted to it in such haste that she topp...

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What’s love got to do with it?

Every time my students would take the VIA survey on Character Strengths and ‘Love’ would show up in their top 5, there was a mix of embarrassment and denial on their faces – almost as though a dirty little secret of their inner lives had just been revealed and they needed to distance themselve...

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Reaching out and reaching in

Part 2 of 2 – see part 1 here: Why Stress Is Actually Good For Us In Part 1, I wrote about the negative impact of stress on our health ONLY if we believe stress to be harmful for us. However, what is also becoming evident is that stress makes us more social, and for a species whose success lies i...

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Why stress is actually good for us

Part 1 of 2 – see part 2 here: Reaching Out and Reaching In Me and stress go back a long way. I was only 9 when my English teacher labelled me “the little worrier”. As I grew older “just relax” and “don’t you know stress is bad for you” became the way others most often related to me...

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The secret of baby steps

Isn’t it a joy to watch a baby learn to walk? The infectious look of glee on their faces? The beaming pride with which they look around and seek acknowledgement? The total oblivion to the ‘failure’ of numerous falls and the endearing scramble back to our lap of safety when the going gets reall...

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Who decides your life journey?

It was a haunting interview - Clive Wearing, the brilliant musician who lost his memory, spoke of what life was like without any recall of life events: “One night 20 years long – with no dreams, that’s what its been like, just like death. No difference in day and night, no thoughts at all. An...

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