Positive Psychology Coach
Cognitive Behavioural Therapist
Self Worth Researcher
If you want to understand who I am, and why I do what I do, I’ve written the real journey of how I got here. Because I think that ultimately our journeys are all the same. That we each struggle with our own fears and self-doubt. That we each are immersed deep in mental stories that don’t always serve us well. And that regardless of where we are or what we’ve been through, we each yearn to make the most of this precious life and leave our mark in the world.
I had a beautiful childhood. My father was a diplomat and so I got to travel the world and experience many cultures. I also got to attend many formal events not realizing at the time how privileged I was to do so. Those early years instilled in me a perspective on the world and a deeply felt compassion for it that has only grown with time.
But every strength is also a weakness. The advantages of an expat life also brought with it an end to close friendships (pre email and social media era) and a disruption to academic pursuits. For a sensitive child like me, it meant an eating disorder in my early adolescence, and many brushes with death over the following few years.
I was one of the few lucky success stories at a time when eating disorders never really left. At a deep level, I felt that I had survived for a purpose and finding it became my life’s mission. That’s when I began to notice the common fears that many women struggle with – fears of inadequacy that I’d known much too well. And I became painfully aware of the fact that most of us learn very early on to reject parts of ourselves others don’t like in order to win their approval and become disconnected with our strengths and our callings.
I decided to pursue a Master’s degree in Positive Psychology and Coaching Psychology and chose to do research on women’s self-worth. I needed to understand the motivations that drive women away from themselves, so I could help them find their way back home. Back to who we are, and to the difference we are each called to make in this world.
My research helped me understand why many of us struggle with criticism, silently seek approval, and even compare and compete in unhealthy ways. Why we play small, stress ourselves out with perfection, and trample over our own needs to meet those of others. Why we continue to doubt themselves despite knowing we are competent and watch others take credit for our ideas. Why our aura of confidence is often simply a mask.
Today, I bring my personal journey, my academic background and many years of coaching practice to women around the world. I help them remove the masks that are underpinned by feelings of shame, deficiency and perpetual self-doubt. And to connect to their need to find joy in life, succeed at work and lead with authentic confidence.
Because that’s the true calling of every woman’s heart.
Your children are not your children.
They are the sons and daughters of Life’s longing for itself.
I’m a mother at heart, blessed with 4 amazing children (including a set of boy-girl twins) who ensure that I live the life I preach! Every day, I realize yet again that parenting is a job like no other, where our children bring us face to face with our own shadows.
Like so many of you, I aspire for that fine line of work-life balance and struggle to understand that it really doesn’t exist. Like you, I often get carried away in my dreams for them and learn, yet again, that it’s their dreams that matter. Like you, I suffer from mother’s guilt every so often, and have to remind myself that children are far more resilient than we think.
The Official Story
Homaira Kabir is a positive psychology coach, a cognitive behavioral therapist and a researcher on women’s self-worth who has over 10 years of experience coaching and training women in leadership and wellbeing. Her work is based on a model of authentic expression that she has developed and tested on hundreds of women to help them develop clarity of vision and the courage to take action.
With a Master’s degree in positive psychology and coaching psychology, and as a MentorCoach certified coach, Homaira takes a unique approach to women’s leadership that blends science and spirit and forms the basis for self-transformation.
She is a widely published writer who blogs regularly for Happify, Forbes, the Huffington Post, Positive Psychology News Daily, and her articles have been featured in the Daily Good, Positivity Daily, Live Happy and more. Her work and approach connects with a woman’s inherent paradox and has helped thousands of women move beyond their fears and self-doubt, embrace their true worth, and live the life within them.